“Aren’t you hot in that?” 

“Are you forced to wear that thing?” 

“Do you ever feel like taking it off?” 

“So men can’t see your hair? Like ever? What if you get married?” 

In a time that celebrates progress and understanding, it's surprising to see so many people still stuck in the dark when it comes to the topic of hijab. It can be quite frustrating—almost infuriating—to hear the same unoriginal and thoughtless questions repeatedly. 

Despite the increasing visibility of hijabis in public spaces like social media and the voices speaking up, there are still those who miss the mark, failing to understand the rich layers of meaning behind a Muslim woman's decision to wear the hijab. 

What’s even more frustrating is how quickly seeing a woman in hijab becomes a trigger for stereotypes and snap judgments, rather than being recognized and appreciated for its true meaning and significance.

In celebration of World Hijab Day, we're here to tackle all those common questions you might have about the hijab.

1. “You are forced to wear the hijab”

No, we aren’t forced. But the word Islam itself means submission—surrendering to God’s will. While Allah SWT has commanded us to wear the hijab, it ultimately comes down to our own choice to embrace modesty and follow His command. So, when Muslim women choose to wear the hijab, we are simultaneously recognizing the rights that our God has over us. We choose to submit to Him willingly.

2. “Your religion oppress you”

Some countries may use violence and threats to force Muslim women to wear the hijab, but it's important to know that our religion does not support any form of violence, especially against women. In fact, Allah SWT and Prophet Muhammad SAW emphasize the importance of women's rights. And the purpose of covering ourselves is to protect our dignity and beauty from the gaze of lustful men.

In Islam, women are valued like pearls; meant to be protected and cared for in the depths of the ocean. Wearing a hijab signals to men that women should not be treated lightly or seen as objects. In a world where women are often objectified, Islam aims to honor women by protecting us and raising our status so that we are respected by all. 

3. “Pity, you can’t have fun with that thing on” 

The hijab doesn’t take us away from enjoying life or having a good time; in fact, it can be a way to express our personal style, confidence, and empowerment. It’s a form of self-expression that aligns with personal values and religious beliefs while still embracing all experiences life has to offer.

Whether it's hanging out with friends, traveling, or pursuing hobbies, wearing the hijab doesn’t limit our ability to have fun. Thus, many women feel a sense of freedom and empowerment knowing they are following their faith while still fully engaging with the world around them. 

4. “We know you feel trapped in that” 

As Muslim women, there aren’t denying that some days feel harder than others. Especially in times where showing skin is considered ‘fashionable’ and empowering. But when we focus on our goal of pleasing God and submitting to Him despite these challenges, we discover a freedom that nothing else in this world can provide.

In Islam, every challenge brings with it the potential for greater rewards. The more we resist worldly temptations, the closer we get to Allah SWT. In Surah Al-Najm verse 40-41, Allah promises, “...And that his effort is going to be seen. Then he will be recompensed for it with the fullest recompense.”

5. “Why do only women wear hijab, but not men?” 

The concept of hijab in Islam is not one-sided. Both men and women are instructed to lower their gaze and behave modestly. The hijab, therefore, is a part of a broader framework of mutual respect and dignity that applies to all Muslims, encouraging both genders to uphold the values of modesty and humility in all aspects of life.

Interestingly, the Quran’s directive for men to lower their gaze comes before the commandment for women to cover themselves with the veil, highlighting that modesty is a shared responsibility. Although men are not required to cover their bodies to the same extent as women, they still have specific guidelines for modest clothing, such as wearing pants that reach the knees. 

6. “Who can see your hair?” 

We are allowed to remove our hijab in the presence of all women and our mahram. A mahram refers to a family member with whom marriage is permanently prohibited. This means our fathers, brothers, sons, uncles, grandfathers, nephews, and children who have not yet reached puberty. And of course, our husbands.

7. “Do you wear a hijab at home?” 

When we have guests at home who aren’t our mahram, we are required to wear the hijab. Additionally, covering our awrah during salah (prayers) is also mandatory even at home.

8. “Why do some muslim wear hijab and some don’t?”

Some began wearing the hijab as early as twelve years old, while others may turn to religion and choose to submit to Allah at the age of thirty. No one is ever too late or too early. Each person's journey with Allah SWT is unique. Similarly, the choice to wear hijab and the manner in which it is worn varies among individuals. 

Everyone engages with their faith at their own pace and comfort level. Choosing to wear hijab is a personal decision driven by a genuine desire to please God, while also recognizing the wisdom behind His command.

9. “Are you allowed to do anything to your hair?” 

Of course! We’re allowed to go to women-only salons and spas. Like all women, we want to look and feel our best. The key difference is that our beauty is reserved to only those who deserve to see and appreciate us, like our spouses. Our beauty isn’t meant for the eyes of strangers.